As a sexual assault therapist in Texas, one of the most common stuck points I hear from survivors is that they did not fight back, try to escape, or even scream in many cases. Those coping with trauma often feel shame for not acting, believing they could have stopped it. Perpetrators sometimes use these reactions to blame survivors, claiming they must have wanted it. Any sexual assault therapist knows this is simply false.
The truth is, our bodies respond to trauma with three reactions: fight, flight, or freeze. We’re all familiar with fight or flight, but let’s talk about freeze. When we’re in a situation with no clear way out or when fighting back might make things worse, the primitive brain takes over, leaving us immobilized. Think of our ancestors being attacked by a sabertooth tiger. If escape isn’t possible, “playing dead” might be the safest choice.
In cases of a genuine freeze response, it is NEVER a conscious choice. It’s purely a self-preservation mechanism, both physically and psychologically. As a sexual assault therapist, I’ve talked with many who freeze and then experience some memory loss about the event. This may be the brain’s way of protecting itself from being overwhelmed by what’s happening in the body. It temporarily checks out.
So, don’t judge your reaction if you find yourself frozen during a traumatic event. Freezing is not a sign of consent; it’s a survival instinct.
Innova Recovery Center offers specialized therapies to support those who have experienced sexual abuse. Our team is dedicated to helping you heal your wounds and find hope for a new life. Reach out to us today at (210) 254-3618 to start your journey toward recovery.
